We are often too busy focusing on what other people have that we fail to see what we have right in front of us. Human beings are social creatures and that means we need to be integrated as part of a group. Finding the group that you want to be associated with can be quite challenging. What we end up doing is watching others and looking at what they have so that we can match up and ultimately fit in.
It is the reason that one of the 10 commandments was about coveting what other people have. I have written in previous blogs about how we focus on what we don’t have rather than celebrating what we do have. We are always looking at the neighbours and seeing the positive elements of their lives, or seeing the people at work who we do more than aspire to be like. The grass is often greener… or so it seems.
Few of us can really understand what other people’s lives involve. When we see the outer elements and the surface we don’t know what lies beneath. There is no way of really seeing the entirety of people’s lives unless we spend some time walking in their shoes. We have to stop the jealousy about other people and instead be thankful for what we have in our own lives.
It is easy to get caught up in looking at other particularly with the modern use of social media. Years ago we would have only seen a handful of people that we lived or worked with, but in 2016 we see the details of the lives of many hundreds of people on social media. The key is to remember that you are only seeing what they allow you to see which cannot give a rounded view of their lives. You will only be seeing the best bits the positive elements and the successes. Social media is many things but for many it isn’t about being honest.
I am concerned that young people looking at the activity of friends or acquaintances on Facebook or Instagram may have a distorted view of life. It can make them disappointed with what they have or feeling dissatisfied. As with many things in modern life, we have to ensure that we educate young people and equip them with the skills to deal with life in 2016.
Like many people, I can be guilty of seeing others having more things, a better life and greater happiness but we know the grass is not always greener.