I was musing on the subject of memories today. What are they and why do we value them? Of course we tend to think of memories as being positive things but there are many bad memories. We hold on to these things for many reasons. It may be because they remind us of something positive, of a great time, of someone special, of how we felt at that point in time. Whatever it is the memories can help to transport us back to that moment in time.
Holding onto things is something we all do. It helps us to navigate through the changing waters of modern life. It can give us comfort in difficult times and help us to keep focused on what is important. But what happens when it is holding us back?
Many times we retain principles, ideas, and emotions that are not helping us and are actually holding us back. It isn’t easy to let go of these things because it means we have to change our perspective. We have to break the chains and open our eyes to a new way of looking at things. It usual needs outside support to be able to get to that point.
We also hold onto huge amounts of negativity that can massively impact on our well-being. That person who cut us up on the motorway on the way to work, the rude person who pushed in front at the checkout, the cold call that we received – they all make us angry, annoyed and frustrated. Negative emotions that can eat away at us and end up ruining our day and making us feel low.
The key is we have to let it go. We have to stop those negative emotions rising. Does it really matter about the person who cut you up on the motorway as long as you are driving safely? Does it really matter that they pushed in front of you at the checkout after all they may have been rushing for a really good reason? Why bother about that cold call they are wasting their time?
Don’t get me wrong. I don’t say this as a person who is calm about things and anyone who knows me knows that. But I am doing my best to change my perspective and start to let things go, to learn how to let the negative emotions disappear and instead replace it with positivity. After all if we hold onto those negative feelings the only person who suffers is us. Perhaps now as we are still at the start of 2016 we should all take a deep breath and let go of things.